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Post by degulover21 on Sept 2, 2019 20:50:29 GMT
Hazel is handling it well. She’s eating and gained weight. I think she knew about coco. You guys always seem to know what I’m thinking. Yeah I feel like I’m not doing nothing for hazel but if all goes well I’m sure she will love me for it. But thank you guys for being here for me at a really hard time
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Post by deguconvert on Sept 2, 2019 20:57:55 GMT
Ditto to both Savvy and Moletteuk! You are doing the right thing, and you are doing it well, love!!
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Sept 3, 2019 1:52:02 GMT
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Post by degulover21 on Sept 3, 2019 1:52:02 GMT
These are the times I hate when I’m getting settled for bed. All of sudden I find myself looking at coco pictures and thinking about her. Causing me to cry my dad said I’ll have good days and all of sudden have a bad days. I just wondering what made her go down hill so fast did she have pneumonia? Or chest infection. I’ll never know the answer.could I of saved her by letting them give her fluid and take more antibiotics home. I don’t know just the what ifs.. wondering if I gave her a chance would she be here. But I think she had enough of fighting cos she got so weak.
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Post by hpdegus on Sept 3, 2019 2:40:32 GMT
Your dad is right, you'll have both good and bad days. But slowly you'll be able to think more of the good memories with Coco, and how great the past few years with her were.
I'm so sorry, it's really hard not knowing. But you did all you could. And you knew her best--you knew she was tired and ready to rest. I know it's hard not to, but try not to second guess your judgement on this. You knew she was ready, so you did what was best for her. Which makes you a great degu parent.
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Post by yasmin on Sept 3, 2019 2:47:59 GMT
You did the right thing. All the fluid would have probably done, if it helped at all, is prolonged her agony. Antibiotics were not working for her. You did everything that medically could have been done for her. I would have made the same decisions as you.
My heart goes out to you degulover21. I know the grief that you are feeling - I have had 17 degus pass away and I unfortunately had to be the one to make the fatal decision for all but two of them. They live on in my memories. Though the grief never really goes away - not for me, at least – it does diminish with time. I deal with it by learning all I can from those past experiences so that I can provide an even better life for my living degus, and to help other degus and their guardians.
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Sept 5, 2019 19:24:50 GMT
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Post by degulover21 on Sept 5, 2019 19:24:50 GMT
Hey guys so the girls cage clean is way over due. I know snowball and fudge just clean normally as I usually do But how do I go about hazels cage?
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Post by deguconvert on Sept 6, 2019 0:48:27 GMT
What if you do the cleaning in stages? Half the cage as soon as you are able to . . . and maybe the other half a few days later?
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Post by moletteuk on Sept 6, 2019 9:37:32 GMT
I always cleaned in stages after a loss, but the remaining degus never had a problem, I think it hurts us humans more than the goos to remove the traces of the lost goo.
I meant to say before that I wouldn't have given her the antibiotics and fluids at the end, I would have done the same as you. She was already on antibiotics so there was no advantage in that and you were getting some food and fluids into her so a fluid shot wouldn't have done much at that point either. I think something else happened to make her suddenly go downhill after she had seemed to improve and get her appetite back, it's impossible to say what, but something like pneumonia or a spread of infection to a hidden place or sepsis or even an underlying tumour could have been behind it. I'm certain it was nothing that you could have done anything about, she was already getting all possible vet care and treatment. I hope I haven't upset you bringing this up after a few days have passed, I just wanted to try to offer some peace of mind.
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Post by savvy on Sept 6, 2019 10:31:45 GMT
I clean in stages as a matter of course, top levels, then the bottom levels a few days later. I find it less stressful for all concerned.
I think moletteuk is right, there comes a point where you have to ask if you are keeping a sick or injured pet alive for yourself or is letting them go in their best interests. I would, and have over the years, made the same decision as you. I doesn't get any easier to make, and you still question that decision, but sometimes it is a necessary decision.
You did everything you could and you made the right decision at the right time. You're during great.
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Post by degulover21 on Sept 6, 2019 16:12:58 GMT
I am coming to accept the fact I did all I can. My mum and dad are collecting coco ashes as I type. I miss coco dearly but it’s was kinder for coco. And yes I’m dreading cleaning the cage I’m about to clean the top and then bottom after the weekend.
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Post by moletteuk on Sept 6, 2019 20:20:15 GMT
Good, well done, I think you're coping brilliantly. I always felt guilty or full of 'what ifs' for a few days and then as I processed it and, assuming I had no real regrets, the guilt and 'what ifs' would drop away as I came to terms. The cage clean is another grief hurdle, problably will be upsetting but it's another mile along the grief road, all part of the process.
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Sept 6, 2019 20:38:44 GMT
Post by deguconvert on Sept 6, 2019 20:38:44 GMT
Ditto!
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Post by degulover21 on Sept 6, 2019 22:47:24 GMT
I cleaned both of the degus cages, I cried when I did hazels just felt like I was getting rid of coco. I was looking at pics of her and she was happy over the the course of her life. Still doesn’t feel real.never thought it would be Cocos time this year. Feeling bad for hazel I know she’s feeling lonely and missing that degu cuddling and grooming.i just hope wherever you are coco that you are treated good and pain free, and with lots of degus in a pile. We sure hell miss you down here. 💕💕
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Post by winic1 on Sept 7, 2019 0:46:31 GMT
I would bet Degu Heaven is an endless place of rocks and hills and branches and tunnels and caves and bridges and soft fuzzy hammocks, with tasty treats and leaves and flowers everywhere. Nobody has teeth troubles anymore. Nobody's tail gets pinched or degloved anymore, and all tails are as long as that degu wants it to be. And they all get along, all the time. Happy Degu Heaps all over the place. And if you get tired of one heap, or they wake up and go play, you can always, always, find another welcoming heap to pile onto. Always someone to cuddle with.
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Post by degulover21 on Sept 7, 2019 13:36:44 GMT
😌🙂 sounds perfect
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Sept 8, 2019 22:13:16 GMT
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Post by degulover21 on Sept 8, 2019 22:13:16 GMT
So hazel started pinging the bars so I let her out and she just keeps pulling the wallpaper and misbehaving. Any idea? Now she’s pinging again cos I put her back for being naughty
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Sept 8, 2019 22:17:33 GMT
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Post by degulover21 on Sept 8, 2019 22:17:33 GMT
Feel horrible but what can I do?
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Post by savvy on Sept 8, 2019 22:24:02 GMT
I think she may be playing you a little. Degus can be a bit brattish at times and she may have picked up on your sympathies because she alone at the moment so getting extra attention and be milking it.
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Sept 8, 2019 23:34:06 GMT
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Post by degulover21 on Sept 8, 2019 23:34:06 GMT
YeH noticed she’s misbehaving more.
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Sept 12, 2019 23:36:42 GMT
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Post by degulover21 on Sept 12, 2019 23:36:42 GMT
I havent cleaned the bottom cage yet, it’s just if I do she’s gone , all smell gone😓 just upsets me
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